FEEDBACK TO THE FEEDFUTURE

I think of myself as a man/boy that engages in and encourages an open exchange of ideas. I like to think of myself in this way because it makes me come across as a pretty cool guy. And yeah, I try to speak honestly and frankly as often as possible. But when it comes to asking for the opinions of others in regards to the things I have made, works that I have invested serious time and effort into, I secretly just want a validating pat on the head. So, the violent reactions to less-than-fawning responses described in Sometime to Read Your Drafts were easy to relate to. Lest we forget, the article also makes clear the necessity of a acquaintance who can be kind AND honest in their remarks, and that distancing ourselves from our rabid and defensive egos is essential when forming this sort of relationship. Also, asking for feedback and constructive criticism doesn't require you to sign a stone-set contract that entails the utter acceptance and application of all suggestions. You're capable of sifting through what is returned to you and discerning that which will improve your work. The important part of this is to remove yourself enough from what you've made to leave room for the good ideas that will be offered.

Asking for someone to respond in earnest to a piece of your work doesn't have to be a painful process. But asking in a manner that facilitates edifying and enlightening discussion can be. While encouraging a "thumbs-up, thumbs-down" reaction can be a good way to get the ball rolling, seeking assistance with specific sections, aspects, and creative decisions can be a lot more helpful. What were some glaring errors? What can be done away with? What worked the best? Did anything stand out as disruptive or distracting? Did my intent and purpose come across properly? Who am I? These are all questions that I've found to be useful in my own work. As far as incorporating the feedback of others into what I've made, the most important factor is my respect for the person I'm dealing with. I seek input from individuals whose opinions I value, and whose own work and manner impress me. Sometimes, classes can lead to a critical relationship that is hard for me to take seriously (hopefully not in a snobby way) because my partner is someone who I don't really trust with these matters. I try to at least consider everyone's suggestions, but sometimes people are just WRONG and DUMB. Or at least wrong. Dumb isn't necessary. There's that ego talkin' again.